I'll admit I do it if you admit you do it : )
Sometimes I tell myself what I don't do, don't feel, and don't want, which is very different-not better or worse-than telling myself what I do do, do feel and do want.
Try this experiment, fill in the blank. Try not to make it too hard, first answer is usually a good one.
I'm not _________________
I don't feel ___________________
I don't think __________________
I don't know ____________________
Check in with yourself. What emotion comes forward? What do you feel/notice in your body? What thoughts are present?
Now fill in these blanks
I am _________________ photo by Diane Duda at STUDIO DUDA ART
I feel ___________________
I think __________________
I know ____________________
Check in with yourself again. What emotion comes forward? What do you feel/notice in your body? What thoughts are present? What is the difference for you between the first and the second experiment?
Finding ourselves through our "Nots" is one way to self identify. Mark Nepo calls this the "Habit of Not."
Self awareness humbles us, informs us, and if we are very lucky, opens us to the unconscious choices we make everyday. Today be aware of how your choice of language informs you.
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Lots of Love